Tears dripping down my face
What do you love about yourself?
Love was no longer around
Supposedly a void that needed filling
Time will heal I kept hearing
But all I needed was a hug
A light to guide me through the darkness
Reassuring me that everything was going to be ok.
Imagine getting asked what do you love about yourself and not having an answer. The silence spoke volumes. Do I really not love anything about myself? Not even one thing? Mindset is everything, I use to reside on the side of negativity. Influenced by entertainment outlets, toxic relationships and social media. The day I began rejecting the social norms, I felt free. Ask me again, in the present day, what do you love about yourself? Everything, would be the response, I’m a whole damn mood.
I love the way water runs across my curves. The creativity that sparks at night. A half-hearted dimple that comes out to play on my happiest days. Let’s not forget my heart, that rides for my loved ones or the emotions I embrace so openly. But do you know when I feel at my most powerful? When I’m educating myself, giving back to the community and making an impact in this world. Self-love is tied to self-esteem, it supports the growth mindset, authenticity and acceptance.
I’m an advocate for self-love as I feel it can increase positivity, confidence and resilience. I touch on this topic quite regularly. From 4 quick ways to practice self-love and body confidence, to 3 ways I embrace my flaws. Self-love isn’t about ignoring the needs of others or becoming obsessed with yourself. Let go of that image. It’s neither selfish or narcissistic. It has the ability to eliminate patterns of negative self-talk, then replace it with empowered cheerleading.
In order to spread love into the world and be happy, you have to love yourself first. You can’t pour from an empty cup. You’ll burn out, get pushed to the side and become a distant memory. The journey begins by addressing self-criticism. If it’s not constructive, change how you react to it. Our bodies are naturally alert for potential threats. This survival mechanism can work against us, causing self-doubt and criticism. You have the potential to be something amazing, but only if you’re willing to put the work in. It takes sacrifices. Don’t fill a void or escape your reality, that’s only temporary. Solve the issue from the root, what makes you feel unhappy, unworthy, like a piece of the puzzle is missing?
As you begin to question your inner critic, it’s time to visualise your highest self. The version where you’re filled with confidence, driven to achieve your goals, connected to God, giving back to the community. By doing this, you know what you’re working towards. The next stage involves positive affirmations. Here are five affirmations that can uplift your mood and boost your self-esteem.
- I acknowledge my own self-worth; my confidence is rising.
- I let go of the negativity towards myself, and accept all that is good.
- I am growing and changing for the better.
- I’m a strong, confident woman, that deserves love/success/happiness.
- I love the person I’m becoming.
That’s just the beginning of the journey, merely touching on the surface. I’m working on something exciting, more details to come. If you enjoyed this post, share it on your socials. Continue the conversation, what do you love about yourself?